Who are you Becoming?
Sometimes we go through periods of our lives and careers that feel really hard.
It can feel like we’re taking ten steps backwards. Like we’re failing, drowning or unable to keep up.
AND…
We can know deep down, that on the other side of this is a person we can’t wait to meet.
You can know deep down that you're willing - as Baal Shem Tov puts it - to fall if you must fall. The one you are becoming will catch you.
I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately. I don’t want it to feel like putting pretty post-it notes over our pain or bulldozing over our emotions to "get to the good part”. It’s also not that any version of us is better or more worthy than the other.
But I also believe that life is constantly asking us to grow. It's asking us to meet the challenges in our lives, Fully. Letting ourselves feel it all and be present for it all.
And then moving forward, not away from it but THROUGH it. Letting it expand us to envelop and include the version of ourselves that met this hardship. Allowing it to make us bigger, rather than smaller.
And sometimes on the other side, you'll find that you’ve started to shed identities that used to define you and you start to play with possibilities you hadn't considered before.
Maybe I can be a leader. Maybe I am good at what I do, and maybe I can handle it.
Maybe I'm more capable than I thought I was.
Maybe I can raise my prices or put myself out there even though I may be rejected.
Maybe I'm no longer the person who self-sacrifices and calls it love, or talks to herself like s&*% and calls it humility.
Maybe I am someone who can handle disappointing others or having them misunderstand me.
And the possibility of that makes you sit up a little bit straighter, take a deep breath and step forward with an ounce more courage than you had before.
So that's my short love note to you this week.
What is the version of you on the other side of this? How are they different to the current you?
